I recently gave some advice to the wife of a newly diagnosed cancer patient. My dear friends at PearlPoint requested that I share this advice with other caregivers.
The patient is always right.
As we caregivers begin the treatment journey along with our loved ones, it is important to always remember that they know best how they are feeling. Let them be in control. Let them make decisions. Give them space to think.
Consider the many medical professionals who will offer direction and opinions; add in all of the family and friends who have researched the unlimited array of new drugs and treatment options plus your own loving research and inputs and, wow, you can easily see how overwhelming this might be to the patients WHILE they are having strange chemicals introduced into their bodies. We as caregivers simply cannot feel or know what the patients feel so let them be in charge; let them tell you before you ask.
Hug them, comfort them, and love them as you let them have the final say in as many decisions as possible. It is vital to their well-being to be in control. Besides, you will have more than enough to do. I have lived it, I have learned, and it is my privilege to share this advice with you.
I wish everyone peace and happiness this Valentine’s Day.